Monday, March 11, 2024

Be Demanding

 In around 1968 (ish), my mother received a new credit card from Bank of America.  It was actually called the “Bank Americard” and it came with a photo of the user.   Now this was before 1974 right?  Women were not yet “allowed” to have credit. But had my mother’s photo on it. And right below my mother’s photo, was my father’s name.   

I can still hear her saying,  “I’m not John Lansdale, I am MRS. John Lansdale!” 


My mother sent it back with a letter requesting “Mrs.”


They sent her a new card with no changes.   She sent it back again. Same.   She sent it back again. I think it was the 3rd card that finally came back with “Mrs.”


She would not have considered herself a feminist- she was working inside the rules of the day.  She wasn’t even asking for her own name.  Nope, she fought for her identity.  She fought for her title.   


And she won.  


It was a Small victory.  


~BUT~


Certain people, certain organizations, certain political parties, want to take us backward.  


We need to Learn my mother’s lesson If we want to move forward again.  If we want bodily autonomy we must do these three things:


Be persistent.  

Be insistent.  

Be demanding.    


Caveat: My mother may have been content with her small victory, but in 2024 we must follow her lead into the future and total victory.  


Friday, October 27, 2023

Tentative Diagnosis

 When I visited my granddaughter last year she told me she had been diagnosed with ADHD “and Gramma you have it too!” Her long elegant finger pointing directly at my heart. 


So that was a thing.  After months of thinking about it i decided to see about that.  So, fast forward and Today i visited with a Psychiatrist.   

Short answer, I probably don’t have ADHD.  But the nagging suspicion i have had for 40 years that i might have dyslexia …boom… could be the source of the many stops and starts in my life.   There will be some more involved testing and then… what?   So while this tentative diagnosis could explain much of my past, I don’t know what that means for my future  

Thursday, October 12, 2023

Starting over

 It’s been awhile since i posted.  So long in fact, that i removed the link from my Instagram profile.   In the meantime i retired.  Looking for something to do I return to my rabble rousing days of the 1990s and have discovered an amazing group of women who were barely born back then.   So now I follow them into the future.  Stay tooned!!